Rabu, 09 November 2011

courtship ISLAM

1. Do not be alone with a boyfriend in a quiet place, unless accompanied by a mahram of the woman (so all three)"Let not a man berkholwat (alone) with a woman except with mahromnya ..." [HR Bukhari: 3006.523, 1341 Muslim, Al Manahi Ash View Mausu'ah Shariah 2 / 102]"It is not a lonely man bersepi (alone) with a woman but a demon that all three" (HSR.Tirmidzi)2. Do not go with a girlfriend more than a day and night unless she is accompanied by a mahram"It is not lawful for a woman who believes in Allah and the Last Day to travel day and night with no mahromnya." [Bukhari HR: 1088, Muslim 1339]3. Do not walk around with a girlfriend to a distant place unless the woman was accompanied by mahram"... .. Do not be traveling with a woman except with mahromnya ...." [HR Bukhari: 3006.523, Muslim 1341]4. Do not touch with a girlfriend, no hugging, no touching, no kissing, even shaking hands is also not allowed, let alone more than just a handshake
 
"If someone in the head with a needle puncture of the iron is better than touching a woman who is not lawful for him." (Hasan hadeeth Thobroni history in al-Kabir Mu'jam 20/174/386 and Rauyani in Musnad: 1283, see Ash Shohihah 1/447/226)Said Rasulullahi sallallaahu 'alaihi wassallam: "Actually I do not shake hands with women." [HR Malik 2 / 982, Nasa'i 7 / 149, 1597 Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah 2874, Ahmad 6 / 357, etc.]5. Do not look at genitalia girlfriend, each must wear clothes that cover her nakedness"Say to the believers men let their gaze and guard his cock .." (Qur'an Sura al Nur verse 30)"... Adultery both eyes are looking at ...." (Bukhari, Muslim, Abu Dawud and Nasa'i)6. Do not talk about / do the things that makes slipping into adultery"And come not nigh to fornication, adultery actually it is an act of evil and a bad way" (Qur'an Surah Al Isra 32)"Both hands are zinanya adultery and inappropriate touching, adultery and zinanya legs are moving, and mouth and zinanya adultery is kissing." (Reported by Muslim and Abu Dawud)7. Do not procrastinate marry each other if it is felt appropriate"O young people! Whoever of you capable of wedlock, then nikahlah, because marriage is more subduing views, and further fortify vagina (genitalia). And whoever can not afford, then let him fast (shaum), because it can fortify himself shaum ". (Saheeh Hadith Reported by Ahmad, Bukhari, Muslim, Tirmidhi, Nasa'i, Darimi, Ibn Jarud and Bayhaqi)."The most human-to-plunge in the Fire is the mouth and genitals." (HR Turmudzi and he said this hadeeth saheeh.)WARNING:in fact many scholars and religious teacher who forbids courtship, such as religious teacher Muhammad Umar Sewed. so you should soon get married and do not dating ...
 
For those who have already sinned bertaubatlah and then do not despair, God would forgive his servant who repent and beg for forgiveness ...

TRIP

In a book that is quite famous in the world of Sufism, Kasyful Mahjub, we are told that once the Caliph al-Mansur of the Abbasid dynasty scholars invited four great jurist to come to his palace. They are Abu Hanifah, Sufyan al-Tsauri, Mis `ar ibn Qidam, and Syuraih.
 
The Caliph intended to lift them into the kingdom of supreme judge (Qadi), a highly strategic position more appealing. However, these four great scholars agree that reject the request Caliph al-Mansur. Sufyan al-Tsauri chose to flee to a harbor and hide under the ship about to sail, while others went to the palace to convey rejection.
 
Arriving at the palace, the Caliph Abu Hanifa pointed to the justices, but he tried to dodge by saying, "O Commander of the Faithful, I am not an Arab but a friend of the Arabs. Arab leaders will not accept the decision of Supreme Court justices like me."
 
Caliph Abu Hanifa accepted the objection and called Mis `ar ibn Qidam to come forward. "You must be a supreme judge," appointed Caliph al-Mansur. However, Mis `ar menaggapinya by pretending to behave like a madman. "Remove this person (Mis` ar - Red), it was crazy! " cried the Caliph al-Mansur.
 
Stay a scholar again, Syuraih was commanded to fill the vacancy Qadi. Syuraih the same objection as previously made by the two scholars. Syuraih said, "O Caliph, I was easy to be sad and fond of jokes, but someone who likes joking penyedih and not worthy of being a judge." However, Syuraih refusal was not accepted by the Caliph al-Mansur. Conversely, by the caliph, was asked to take the helm Syuraih judiciary, because there is no longer a very competent scholars to hold that office. Meanwhile, other scholars have expressed rejection of the supreme magistracy.
 
The story that happened to the golden era of Islamic scholars reflects the firmness in holding to the principle of not tempted by the sweetness of power. For them, power is a very frightening specter. Since, it has the potential to narrow the space and independence of the clergy. In addition, the office of judge was very heavy, because it is a mandate that mahaberat and can turn them from the worship of Allah SWT. Therefore, instead of fighting positions, the scholars actually trying to avoid all forms of worldly temptations of power and of themselves. They always avoid it in various ways.
 
In contrast to current conditions, many people including scholars abuzz even close to power, even join forces to achieve it. As a result, scholars no longer guide and protect the people, but use it as a lubricant to the seat of power. How we will miss the presence of scholars such as Abu Hanifa that maintains the integrity and personality and able to resist occupation, no matter how high up that power. We long for scholars who choose to purity of heart rather than the beauty of her home.